Lost Are Those Who Are Forgotten

Lost are those who are forgotten

 

Life cannot be better, we say when everything around us goes the way we want it to be. It feels like we have been riding a big airplane-sized car on the straight and plain highway of life. There is no traffic, no stop sign, nothing to distract us. We and our life. We get whatever we want. Life feels picture-perfect. 

This is where we do the prime mistake of our lives. The slip where we are going to slide so hard that  we are going to burst. We do not even realize what we are doing. We climb all the way to the mountains and do not know our way down. This is where life likes to play with us. To play with our emotions and beloved ones. Just to make us stronger. Life just wants us to realize the authenticity and not to forget the sure-happenings of life. Life puts a bump on the super straight highway. A slow-down. Life takes away our beloved ones from us. 

Ones without whom our life is meaningless. Ones who ho are actually the wheels of our car which keeps our vehicle running. What should we do in that situation? Give up? I don’t think so. Life itself is so dumb. It just knows few tricks to get us but we are a lot smarter than that. Do not let life play on us but play with life. Tell life how strong we are and we have not forgotten anything. We know our way down and we know that life is not perfect. Tell life that we know we all are in this world to leave. We know that this straight simple way is going to be stony at some place and we will get through it. Sometimes we think that why life chose us to be the victim. Remember we are not the victims, we are blessed ones. 

Life did it to us because we are a lot stronger than other people and we will become inspiration of people. We will become a source of message for other million people and show them that we are living in the real world and we thank God for everything. We obviously miss the lost ones but now we are going to live our own lives because people need us. Because this world needs some good people to be here still to spread the intelligence. Our families need us to support them and we will make proud those who are taken away from us. We did not actually lose them. 

Lost are those who are forgotten. They will be there with us, in our memories forever. We will meet them in heaven someday and will spend the never-ending life with them. Everybody loves us. I used “We” all over this little message because it’s not just you. You are not alone. It’s you and me together. It’s we now and forever.

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For Those Who Work A Lot

For those who work a lot and have children or plan to have children

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door. 
SON: "Daddy, may I ask you something?" 
DAD: "Yeah, sure, what is it?" 
SIN: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?" 
DAD: "That does not concern you. Why do you ask?" says angrily
SON: "I just wanted to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "If you must know, I make $ 50 an hour."
"Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down.
"Dad, please and, can you lend me $ 25? "
The father was furious: "If the only reason you askedto lend you $ 25 that you can buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then turn around and go straight to the room and think about why you are being so selfish. I do not work hard everyday for such childish frivolities "
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy questions ... "How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?"
After some hour, had calmed down, and started to think: "Maybe there was something he really needed to buy those $ 25 ... really did not ask for money very often ..."
The man went to his room and opened the door.
"Are you asleep, son?" he asked.
"No, Dad, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I was thinking ... maybe I was too hard on you earlier. I had a tough day and took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $ 25 you asked for. "
The boy sat straight up, smiling: "Oh, thank you daddy!" he yelled.
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up novčanica.Kad he saw that the boy already had money, again began ljutiti.Dječak slowly counted out his money and looked at his father.
"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the father grumbled.
"Because I did not have enough, but now I do.", replied the boy.
"Dad , I have $ 50. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I want to have dinner with you. " 
The father was crushed. He hugged his son and asked him for forgiveness. This is just a short reminder to all of you. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with people who really matter to us, those close to our heart. 
Remember to share that $ 50 with someone you love. If we die tomorrow, the company that you work for can easily replaced you. But family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for life.

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The Qualities Of A Muslim Husband

I am not sure how a Muslim husband should be, but this is worth reading and applies to every husband, Muslim or not.

These Should  Be The Qualities Of A Muslim Husband

1. Make your wife feel safe, does not threaten her with divorce.

2. Give sincere salaams.

3. Treat it gently, as a weaker vessel.

4. Advise her in private with the fastest time in the best way and 'climate'.

5. Be generous with her.

6. Heat the seat for her, you will warm your heart.

7. Avoid anger, do wudhu at all times.

8. Is looking good and smelling to his wife.

9. Do not be rigid or hard-hearted to her.

10. Be a good listener.

11. Yes to cuddle. Not for discussion.

12. Call your wife with the best names, nicknames, she will like to hear.

13. Take a pleasant surprise.

14. Preserve and protect the language.

15. Wait, accept and ignore its flaws.

16. Give sincere compliments.

17. Encourage her to maintain good relations with her family.

18. Contact theme of interest.

19. Compliment her for her relatives.

20. Give gifts to each other.

21. Free to the routine, surprise her.

22. Have a good opinion of each other.

23. Have good manners, forget the little things, look no defects.

24. Be patient during pregnancy.

25. Respect it by his jealousy.

26. Be humble.

27. Sacrifice your happiness for her.

28. Help at home with the housework.

29. Help her to love their relatives, however, did not try to force it.

30. Let her know that she is the ideal woman for you.

31. Remember his wife in Du'a.

32. Leave the past Allah, no basement or bring it to light.

33. Do not act like you're doing her a favor, remember that Allah is the Provider, the husband is only the carrier of living for the family.

34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not his wife.

35. Put food in the mouth of his wife.

36. Treat your wife as the most precious pearl that you want to protect.

37. Show him your smile.

38. Do not ignore the little things, deal with them before they came to be large.

39. Respect and show that you appreciate their thinking.

40. Help her find and build its internal strengths and skills.

41. Respect when she can not be in the mood for intimacy.

Keep to the Sunnah of foreplay, do not jump on it like an animal.

42. Help her to take care of children.

43. Sit down and make meals together.

44. Tell it in advance when you travel or return trip.

45. Do not leave home angry.

46. Keep the confidentiality and privacy of home.

47. Encourage each other in the worship of Allah.

48. Living with her kindness, goodness, justice, in good times and bad.

49. Show care for their health and well-being.

50. Remember you also is not perfect, so perfect -If.

51. Share your happiness and sadness with her.

52. Have mercy on their weaknesses.

53. Be strong support for her support.

The above list is a difficult task, but:

"Nothing is difficult when done to the satisfaction of Allah, and nothing is easy when done to the satisfaction of the ego." We ask Allah, the Most High, the path to success and virtue. Amen.

***From an anonymous source

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The Missing Rib

The Missing Rib

God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart. So see how a man find his rib only to find out it was a case of too little too late...

A girl in love asked her boyfriend.

Girl: Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?

Boy: You, of course!

Girl: In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. It was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.

However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems, their life became mundane.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house. At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up.

Before she left the house, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go." She continued, "It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by...

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country and back. She had married a foreigner and divorced. He felt anguished that she never waited for him.

In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met. At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good byes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?

Girl: I'm fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?

Boy: No.

Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number. Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good bye.

Good bye...

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York, in the event that shocked the world.

Midnight, once again, he lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew. She was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken.

Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. Most often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done.

Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives.

Tomorrow may never come. Give and accept what you have today.

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Why Do I Have To Sit At The Back?

The Four Generations In One Car

We have a situation one day, as we were heading to a birthday party. We decided to take my SUV since there is enough room for all of us. My son will be driving and so my daughter-in-law will be in the front seat with her husband driving. The rest of us will be crammed at the back. There are six of us, me the Great grandmother, a new couple - my son and his wife, and a family of three, my granddaughter, her daughter who's 11 and a baby. I sat behind my daughter and in the middle is the baby in her car seat. Car seat nowadays are huge, enough room for an adult person to occupy. This is how we were seated, Me, baby and my granddaughter, Ana, on the same row.  The last row is where my great-granddaughter sits, all by herself, being the youngest. Well, she is not the youngest but because infants need to be safe; she ends up at the last row and the four generations in one car rolls to head to the party.  It was my cousin's birthday and whole family was there. From great grandparents to great granddaughters, you think it would be chaotic? It was and we had so much fun!

 Having four generations in one place is the best thing in the world. For a moment, I sit in a corner and watch everyone, as if watching TV for the first time; everyone has a smile on their face. The oldest and the youngest are all there, their age doesn't seem to matter. We really love parties like this because we get to know our families from the youngest to the oldest. The cake was also worth its significance, indulging our sweet tooth and there was enough for everybody. The food was fantastic and it was flowing like water or rather mud, almost dry and heavy from Enchiladas, Burrito, Arroz Caldo, and so on, it's like a mud slide but tasty without the gooey mud color. It was festive and colorful with all the flowers adorned. There was just so much food I pigged out! I should not but with all the wonderful things around me, I have no urge to resist temptation today and so I indulge to the best I can. The kids had fun with some games that the host family planned out. And there was no crying at all except for the baby which was not really happy to hear so much noise around, it's hard to sleep without being awaken by the loud laughing and screaming of the older children. The baby would drift into sleep and startled suddenly by the screaming during the game, the baby starts to fuss and cry. We solved that by putting the baby inside the room with a monitor and let the baby sleep while we continue the fun. Am sure, the baby won't miss any of that as sleep is more important at the moment.

When it was time to say goodbye, we hang out by the door, unable to just leave. It was hard but we have to leave for it will take us an hour to get to our destination. Everybody has something to bring home, there's too much extra food we'll help them eat and clean the house too, I mean the party. It was a grad day to remember.

When I was heading to the SUV I noticed that my great granddaughter was sitting in the front seat, busy with her iPod. She seems to be so Okay that she seems ready to go home. So I went to where I was sitting when we were coming and the rest goes on the second row me the baby and my granddaughter. Now, my son was already in the driver side but my daughter was still inside the host family's house. So we waited and waited until she came out of the house. Then realize; that somebody was sitting in her seat. So I said now where is Maria going to sit? I say it loud to get my great granddaughter's attention but she didn't even budge. She was so busy with her iPod that she couldn't even hear us talking about the seat. Nobody said a word to her as I waited for any reaction. I waited and waited; hoping somebody would tell her to go back to her seat. It did not happened! I decided to speak up. Ana, you might want to go back to your seat at the back so your mom can sit in the front seat. And she blurted out right there why do I have to sit at the back all the time?

I began to wonder if she heard me earlier but didn't want to give up the front seat. I was shocked but everybody agreed to silence, nobody said a word I waited again. I waited if somebody would speak up. I was hoping to hear from her mother, yet deafening silence is all I hear.

As I was the oldest in the company, I decided to tell her in a calmly manner: Since you are the smallest, that place is perfect for you.

And I waited again,  if she would move and go back to her spot. Well, she did but with a pouty mouth. So we went home in silence and I was thinking how in the world did that happen?

It is time to have a talk with everyone. From my understanding, everybody was sympathetic to her having lost her dad. Yes, she lost her dad and it was heartbreaking for a child. I understand that. But that doesn't change the fact that she has a mother, grandmother, uncle, aunts, cousin and all the relatives in her life. She needs to learn to know her place. As a child, she needs to understand that losing a father is not losing her life. Yes, a part is lost but a part is still there - her mom.

We had a talk after we got home. I invited them inside my house and sit down to chat about it. We agreed from now on, we keep her dad alive in us so she won't miss him that much. We told her about how we miss her dad too but there is always tomorrow to look forward and someday, the pain of losing someone you love will eventually be an instrument to be a better person for the love of someone you lost.

I am relieved after the talk for she came forward and gave me a hug. As she hugged me tight, she said: Grandma, you are right. I still have daddy in me. See, I look like him. Thank you for your love. 

Love is

Real love is not based on romance, candle light dinner and walks along the beach. In fact, is based on respect, compromise, care and trust.

Love does not need a reason. Pure love will come from the heart without reason and it’ll stay every season.

Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.
Its so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you.

Love is a language spoken by everyone but understood only by heart.
Everybody knows how to love but few people know how to stay in love with one person forever.

It takes a strong heart to LOVE but it takes an even stronger heart to LOVE after its been BROKEN.

I love it when I see old couples in love because it makes me believe that TRUE LOVE does exist.

Happy Valentines' Day to all.

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Who is the Boss?

I posted this note - My husband is the boss and he has my permission to say so, on my wall and waited for comments to flow.

So, who is right and who is wrong? One asks.

Now, I am at a risk of not getting his paycheck for posting this! Hahaha. Really, how did this happen? How are husbands the boss, yet with permission from wife? Time has change. Wife no longer the “Yes, Honey” type but husbands otherwise. Wife is no longer the quiet type and cry on the side but husbands end up quiet and cries from the inside. Wife nowadays tell their husbands what they want and husbands learn to listen, "Yes, Honey" as wife submit their to-do list. That is good. This seems to be working and keep peace in homes if most of you agree.

Are husbands becoming smarter, not to disagree with wife? Or they found a way to learn when to disagree? Or it is both ways? I believe so. Husbands and wife kinda learn when to argue and when to just go with the flow to maintain peace and relationship. 

But I still believe a good wife always knew when to allow the Husband to foot the bills. Hahaha…Does it really matter who is the boss when love is the bond between the two of you? Does it really matters who foots the bill when love is the answer to all your doubts? Does it really matter who is right or wrong when there is love in the air?

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Wedding Invitations

Browsing on the net, I happen to catch a glimpse of an article by yahoo titled Wedding Gift Sparks Epic Text Battle: Is Marriage Etiquette Dead? I read on and tried to understand what is it all about. It made me realize one thing : LOVE is dead in this marriage.

Is a wedding a way to earn money or to share a happy moment to family and friends? Maybe it was like that originally. The new generation has changed, perhaps the whole essence of what is a wedding? There were different views expressed in this article, some defending the brides and some sided with the giver. There are two sides of this story as always it is. The giver and the receiver.

As a receiver, the bride plans a wedding, elaborately and extravagantly for her dream wedding. As a bride, I want it to be the best day of my life and that should be okay. The bride has a right to execute according to how she wants her wedding day.  She would be in charge of how much to spend and where to get the money; where to seize the moment and how to convey the message of a wonderful wedding in her  heart. This is very normal for a bride to be...

However, let's look at the other part of the wedding. Who is going to be there? Who would I want to be there? Who should be in my wedding? If a bride believes that a wedding is something to share, then it would be easy because it would be simple and quick. But if the bride thinks a wedding is something that she rely on for her future life, then it has to be grand and expects from her guest list a gift that will take care of her future married life.

The giver on the other hand prepares for the excitement of this wedding. In fact, sometimes the giver would spend a fortune to keep up with the crowd. As a giver, it is important to understand if the bride is close or not. Is she a family member? Is she a good friend or an acquaintance?  The closeness of their relationships matter to the giver. That is normal for any giver unless he or she has a lot to spend and splash on for no reason.

The giver not knowing what to expect, tries their best to find something fun, good and appropriate for the bride and groom. It is hard for a give to know exactly what the couple wants or expect unless stated in the invitation card. It is not easy for a giver who wants to give the best for the couple at an affordable price. Something worth remembering and yet not pricey. Something pricey if the invited quest can afford but without memorable attachment to it would be easy. It all depends on what kind of a person is the giver.  

My thoughts tried to understand what went wrong in this wedding, supposed to be the best day of the couple's life, uniting into one.

Maybe, I should be upfront on my next wedding invitation when sending the RSVP and remember to ask " What is your expectation? Are you inviting me to share your blissful day or you expect me to take care of your future by paying my plate?". It seemed absurd but honestly, it will clear up my mind to make a good decision - whether I can afford such invitation or not.

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STUNNING STORY ABOUT DESTINY

World wants to know about Boynton couple's fairy tale beginnings at Disney

If Sleeping Beauty recounted over and over again how she met her prince in the woods "quite by accident," her dinner guests might roll their eyes and groan.

But unlike the love story in Sleeping Beauty, the story of Alex and Donna Voutsinas' meeting is a true Disney fairy tale worth retelling. The Boynton Beach couple has been telling it to their friends for the eight years they've been married, but only now is it starting to spread beyond family lore - and across the world over the Internet.

A week before the Voutsinases were to be married in March 2002, they were sifting through old photos to create a slideshow for their reception when Donna held up a Polaroid of her at age 5. She and her two brothers were at the Magic Kingdom, posing with a Disney character. Her family had just moved to Florida from New York's Long Island and the 1980 trip was their first to Disney.

But Alex found something familiar in that picture, too. In the background, to the left, was a man he immediately recognized. It was his father, Tony, pushing a young boy in a stroller. A boy Alex thought looked too much like his own baby pictures.

Alex grabbed the photo and raced to his mother's house, where they sifted through hundreds of old photos until they came to a set from their trip to Disney in 1980. The family had been living in Montreal at the time, and it was also Alex's first visit to Disney. In all the photos, Tony and Alex, 3 at the time, are dressed just as they are in Donna's print.

Twenty-two years before they were married, Alex Voutsinas and Donna Balzano were captured in the same image at Disney World .

It's a small world, after all.

"I believe everybody crosses paths at one time or another, but to have it documented like we did just blew my mind," Alex said. The story had been something to amuse visiting friends. But when a friend suggest Alex post the photo and story on Facebook on May 30, the fairy tale was sprinkled with pixie dust. One friend shared it with another, and then another.

Inside of a week, CNN.com had posted it on front page of its website. The story on Yahoo.com already has more than 3 million views. Calls came in from Canadian press, the BBC and the major network morning shows. CBS's The Early Show, NBC's Today Show and ABC's Good Morning America all are clamoring to be the first national outlet to have the kismet couple.

Good Morning America, whose parent company is Disney, hinted their meeting might make for the perfect fairy tale ending. "We did this just for fun," Voutsinas said, "but if I can take my kids to Disney, I'm going to jump at the opportunity."

Alex and Donna didn't meet until 1995, when she took a job at the Voutsinas' Ramada Hotel franchise. They married, had three boys, and they love going to Disney still. But now, when they get home, they carefully study all the little girls in the background of their pictures.

"Maybe their future wives are in the background," Alex said. "You never know."


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Only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; happiness, sadness, knowledge, and all the others, including love.

One day it was announced to all the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. Hence, all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help.

Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Richness, Can I come with you on your boat?"

Richness answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere."

Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel.

Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please."

"I can't help you", Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat."

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by.

Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you."

Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now."

Then, Love saw Happiness.

Love cried out, " Happiness, please take me with you."

But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry.

Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me."

It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder.

Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?"

"It was Time", Knowledge answered.

"But why did Time help me when no one else would?", Love asked.

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered,

"Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

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