Browsing on the net, I happen to catch a glimpse of an
article by yahoo titled Wedding Gift
Sparks Epic Text Battle: Is Marriage Etiquette Dead? I read on and tried to
understand what is it all about. It made me realize one thing : LOVE is dead in
this marriage.
Is a wedding a way to earn money or to share a happy moment
to family and friends? Maybe it was like that originally. The new generation
has changed, perhaps the whole essence of what is a wedding? There were
different views expressed in this article, some defending the brides and some sided
with the giver. There are two sides of this story as always it is. The giver
and the receiver.
As a receiver, the bride plans a wedding, elaborately and extravagantly
for her dream wedding. As a bride, I want it to be the best day of my life and
that should be okay. The bride has a right to execute according to how she
wants her wedding day. She would be in
charge of how much to spend and where to get the money; where to seize the
moment and how to convey the message of a wonderful wedding in her heart. This is very normal for a bride to
be...
However, let's look at the other part of the wedding. Who is
going to be there? Who would I want to be there? Who should be in my wedding? If
a bride believes that a wedding is something to share, then it would be easy
because it would be simple and quick. But if the bride thinks a wedding is
something that she rely on for her future life, then it has to be grand and
expects from her guest list a gift that will take care of her future married
life.
The giver on the other hand prepares for the excitement of
this wedding. In fact, sometimes the giver would spend a fortune to keep up
with the crowd. As a giver, it is important to understand if the bride is close
or not. Is she a family member? Is she a good friend or an acquaintance? The closeness of their relationships matter to
the giver. That is normal for any giver unless he or she has a lot to spend and
splash on for no reason.
The giver not knowing what to expect, tries their best to
find something fun, good and appropriate for the bride and groom. It is hard
for a give to know exactly what the couple wants or expect unless stated in the
invitation card. It is not easy for a giver who wants to give the best for the
couple at an affordable price. Something worth remembering and yet not pricey. Something
pricey if the invited quest can afford but without memorable attachment to it
would be easy. It all depends on what kind of a person is the giver.
My thoughts tried to understand what went wrong in this
wedding, supposed to be the best day of the couple's life, uniting into one.
Maybe, I should be upfront on my next wedding invitation
when sending the RSVP and remember to ask " What is your expectation? Are
you inviting me to share your blissful day or you expect me to take care of
your future by paying my plate?". It seemed absurd but honestly, it will
clear up my mind to make a good decision - whether I can afford such invitation
or not.
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