You Should Eliminate this in life 2015

You Should Eliminate this in life 2015

The new year is a great opportunity to start everything from the beginning and improve your life. You have 365 days to try something new and extraordinary. There’s no need and time to dwell on the failures of the previous year. You’d better begin this year by setting new priorities and goals. This year many people will try to increase their incomes, find love and move up the promotional ladder.

Unfortunately, you may not reach all your dreams, because success requires constant and radical changes of your outlook and inner world. If you realize that the previous year was absolutely unsuccessful and full of negative events, you shouldn’t think that your karma is bad. It means that you’re still going down the wrong path. As soon as you understand it, you’ll be able to wave goodbye to your troubles and fears, since only those people who work hard and believe in their potential abilities can make progress in their lives.

Frankly speaking, I don’t believe in horoscopes and predictions. I’m sure that every person has equal chances to develop themselves this year. There’re no favorable and unfavorable years or days. We all live on the same planet and have all resources and tools to make miracles, no matter what year it is. I want to draw your attention to the things that keep a modern person chronically worried and strained. Do your best to eliminate them this year if you want to become stronger and change yourself for better. You should realize that it won’t be easy, because the hardest battle is against yourself. Don’t be scared of going through difficulties. The game is worth the candle.

1. Filler words

Some people believe that human eyes are the mirror of the soul. It’s a good idea, but I have a bit another point of view. I think that your language and communicative skills reflect and express your outlook. The purity of your language shows that you’re highly intelligent and developed personality.

Nowadays, a great number of people cannot imagine their language without useless filler words. If you start listening carefully to what other people say and how they do it, you’ll notice dozens of annoying words and sounds, which make people clumsy at expressing their thoughts and emotions. Have you ever tried to eliminate the habit of using filler words in your language? If you respect yourself, you should remove obscene words and fillers. Step by step, you can make your fluent speech rich on meaningful and beautiful words. Just try to reduce the frequency of fillers and then you’ll forget about them once and for all.

2. A habit of comparing yourself to others

You may not know but this habit is extremely dangerous. If you’re very susceptible and suspicious person by nature, you should rid yourself of this negative habit. When you compare yourself to others, you may either enjoy the feeling of superiority or damage your self-esteem.

We all live in a society where people are divided into two groups: poor and rich. It means that their lives are different in many aspects. Nowadays there’re many irresistible temptations around us. I’ve noticed that social networks are a significant part of this problem. Every day people add millions of photos in order to demonstrate their success and colorful life. They don’t show their failures and constant problems. When you’re surfing the profiles of your friends you can see their smiles, interesting adventures and prosperity. It appears as if you’re the only person on this planet who is sitting in front of the computer and wasting the most productive years of your life. That’s not true. They may have the same issues and worries too. Instead of analyzing the lives of your friends, you’d better focus on your accomplishments and try to make appropriate efforts to make your dreams come true.

3. Your past

Your past is just the history of your previous life. I still cannot understand why do people repeat their mistakes and expect to see or get something new. Maybe they yearn to justify themselves and correct all wrongs of the past? There’s no need, because no one and nothing can exert influence on the past. Wise people tend to work hard in order to change their present moment for the better and make a contribution to their future. People who cannot take control of their past memories are limited, because the burden of the past doesn’t let them start a new story in their life.

Your past is the chain of events, actions and stages of life that changed your personality either for good or for worse. If you dare to let your past be the past, you’ll be able to open up new perspectives in 2015. Keep in mind that constant focusing on the past is the habit of unsuccessful people.

4. Envy

Envy is a destructive habit of almost every person in the world. It can easily spoil friendship and other types of relationship, because no one likes to communicate with hidden enemies. If you want to overcome envy, you should ask yourself the following questions: “Why do I envy others? Would that give me an opportunity to reach my goals?” You should realize that envy can only double your problems and sufferings. Try to eliminate it and don’t believe people who persuade you that envy can galvanize you into action. Concentrate on your life, career and hobbies. You won’t have vacant time to envy other people. Don’t forget to protect yourself against the envy of evil-wishers. All you have to do is to stay away from potentially envious people this year.

5. Stress

This year you should make high stress resistance your aim. Those who think that sedatives can handle the situation are seriously mistaken. Nowadays there’re many other effective and safe ways to reach calmness and moderation. Massages and other healing therapies can improve your nervous system, but the source of your worries and anxiety is your mind. You won’t achieve a desirable result until you start changing your mindset. Your fears and deep inner conflicts are the main enemies of your life. In 2015 your main task is to think positively, because it’s the best remedy against stress and depression.

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Visualize Your Success

Visualize Your Success

Everybody’s ultimate goal in life is to be successful and happy. Each person’s vision of success is different. Many people find success in material benefits. Others dream about happiness and accomplishment. I have got some interesting ideas to help you visualize your dreams. If you stick to them, you will increase your chances of becoming successful in whatever you choose to pursue.

1. Make picture of your success

According to Einstein, imagination is more important than knowledge. When you have a clear picture of success in your mind, you can take several actions to make it happen as soon as possible. Dedicate a few minutes every day to imagine your success. It will make you believe in yourself and your missions.

2. Define success

Having a personal definition of what being successful means to you and setting proper goals is the only way to make your achievements truly meaningful. What do you believe would make you happy? Define your happiness and take first steps today. I promise that you will feel more successful immediately.

3. Write your goals down

Your consciousness is full of vague and ethereal ideas which float from time to time. If you really want to move forward in life and business, you should set priorities and write down your goals, which can help you reach the success.

4. Tell others

One of the easiest ways to visualize your goals is to speak about them all the time. Share your future goals with your friends, dearest and nearest and even colleagues. It is not necessary to get everyone’s support and agreement, because you realize that tastes differ. People will voice and share your intentions and goals with others many times. For example, I believe that voiced words have the power and tendency to be realized.

5. Focus on the outcome

When you visualize your goals, you think you are a successful person and get used to this state. You begin to think more positively and get more chances to accomplish your cherished dreams and ideas. Focus on these moments of glory and proud and you will feel wonderful emotions of happiness.

6. Action plan

Sure, if you are a genius, then you can rule the chaos. If not, you should create a direct plan and stick to its points. It is necessary to start making big and small steps towards your happiness. If you are dreaming about your own business project, you should start from a business plan. Persistent work will automatically make you more confident and successful.

7. Decide for yourself

Every man is the architect of his own fortune. That’s why you should try not to be the figure of one’s ambitions. Don’t let other people impose their ideas upon you. You should decide for yourself, because other people’s beliefs and pieces of advice won’t make you successful. You will feel more proud, if you reach goals, created by you.

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Be Sensitive

Sensitivity is a wonderful and interesting thing. Sometimes highly sensitive people don’t realize how gifted they are. It seems impossible to be a truly fulfilled human being, if you lack sensitivity. According to a psychological research, about 20% of the population fall into a category called a highly sensitive person. While being a highly sensitive person is a bit hard, here are a few advantages, keep reading…

1. Caring

It turns out that sensitive people are more caring for both themselves and others. Jim Rohn once said a beautiful quote, which seems to be the moto of all sensitive people, “The more you care, the stronger you can be.” Highly sensitive people even care for homeless animals.

2. Sensitivity to the feelings of others

High sensitivity to other people’s emotions can be a powerful asset for you. But it is important to be aware of distressing and negative influence reflected by angry people. You are careful with the feelings of others’, because you know how it feels to be troubled over something. Sensitive people are always in tune with the people around. I think everybody dreams to have such a skill.

3. Sensitivity and creativity

If you are sensitive, you might be creative as well. Creativity can show up in different spheres. Many highly sensitive people are introverted and this trait can also encourage creativity. Such people have a unique viewpoint and creative way of looking at the world.

4. Intuitive

It’s important to love your intuitive nature and feel good about this gift. Intuition is your inner guide, which helps you get the complete picture of action. This deep relationship with your spiritual world will teach you to understand people in an entirely different way than others can. Furthermore, intuitive people deal with problems more efficiently that makes them more resistant to stress.

5. You don’t fake personality

I have noticed that all sensitive people are authentic by nature. They don’t have fake personalities, because it is not their pair of shoes. They often accept who they are. Sincerity is the main trait of their character. These open-hearted people always try to do their best to make people around feel comfortable.

6. Unselfish

Selfishness is not sensitive for a sensitive person. Most sensitive people devote much time to care about others. Moreover, they have a great sense of responsibility to people around them. This empathy is a wonderful thing that is appreciated by others.

7. In touch with the inner world

Sensitive people usually have a special vision and feeling about the situation. They often pay great attention to their inner voice and try not to ignore it. If you are a sensitive person, then you are in touch with your emotions and inner self. As a result, you are more cautious about taking actions.

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The Missing Rib

The Missing Rib

God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart. So see how a man find his rib only to find out it was a case of too little too late...

A girl in love asked her boyfriend.

Girl: Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?

Boy: You, of course!

Girl: In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. It was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.

However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems, their life became mundane.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house. At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up.

Before she left the house, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go." She continued, "It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by...

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country and back. She had married a foreigner and divorced. He felt anguished that she never waited for him.

In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met. At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good byes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?

Girl: I'm fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?

Boy: No.

Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number. Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good bye.

Good bye...

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York, in the event that shocked the world.

Midnight, once again, he lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew. She was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken.

Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. Most often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done.

Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives.

Tomorrow may never come. Give and accept what you have today.

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Why Do I Have To Sit At The Back?

The Four Generations In One Car

We have a situation one day, as we were heading to a birthday party. We decided to take my SUV since there is enough room for all of us. My son will be driving and so my daughter-in-law will be in the front seat with her husband driving. The rest of us will be crammed at the back. There are six of us, me the Great grandmother, a new couple - my son and his wife, and a family of three, my granddaughter, her daughter who's 11 and a baby. I sat behind my daughter and in the middle is the baby in her car seat. Car seat nowadays are huge, enough room for an adult person to occupy. This is how we were seated, Me, baby and my granddaughter, Ana, on the same row.  The last row is where my great-granddaughter sits, all by herself, being the youngest. Well, she is not the youngest but because infants need to be safe; she ends up at the last row and the four generations in one car rolls to head to the party.  It was my cousin's birthday and whole family was there. From great grandparents to great granddaughters, you think it would be chaotic? It was and we had so much fun!

 Having four generations in one place is the best thing in the world. For a moment, I sit in a corner and watch everyone, as if watching TV for the first time; everyone has a smile on their face. The oldest and the youngest are all there, their age doesn't seem to matter. We really love parties like this because we get to know our families from the youngest to the oldest. The cake was also worth its significance, indulging our sweet tooth and there was enough for everybody. The food was fantastic and it was flowing like water or rather mud, almost dry and heavy from Enchiladas, Burrito, Arroz Caldo, and so on, it's like a mud slide but tasty without the gooey mud color. It was festive and colorful with all the flowers adorned. There was just so much food I pigged out! I should not but with all the wonderful things around me, I have no urge to resist temptation today and so I indulge to the best I can. The kids had fun with some games that the host family planned out. And there was no crying at all except for the baby which was not really happy to hear so much noise around, it's hard to sleep without being awaken by the loud laughing and screaming of the older children. The baby would drift into sleep and startled suddenly by the screaming during the game, the baby starts to fuss and cry. We solved that by putting the baby inside the room with a monitor and let the baby sleep while we continue the fun. Am sure, the baby won't miss any of that as sleep is more important at the moment.

When it was time to say goodbye, we hang out by the door, unable to just leave. It was hard but we have to leave for it will take us an hour to get to our destination. Everybody has something to bring home, there's too much extra food we'll help them eat and clean the house too, I mean the party. It was a grad day to remember.

When I was heading to the SUV I noticed that my great granddaughter was sitting in the front seat, busy with her iPod. She seems to be so Okay that she seems ready to go home. So I went to where I was sitting when we were coming and the rest goes on the second row me the baby and my granddaughter. Now, my son was already in the driver side but my daughter was still inside the host family's house. So we waited and waited until she came out of the house. Then realize; that somebody was sitting in her seat. So I said now where is Maria going to sit? I say it loud to get my great granddaughter's attention but she didn't even budge. She was so busy with her iPod that she couldn't even hear us talking about the seat. Nobody said a word to her as I waited for any reaction. I waited and waited; hoping somebody would tell her to go back to her seat. It did not happened! I decided to speak up. Ana, you might want to go back to your seat at the back so your mom can sit in the front seat. And she blurted out right there why do I have to sit at the back all the time?

I began to wonder if she heard me earlier but didn't want to give up the front seat. I was shocked but everybody agreed to silence, nobody said a word I waited again. I waited if somebody would speak up. I was hoping to hear from her mother, yet deafening silence is all I hear.

As I was the oldest in the company, I decided to tell her in a calmly manner: Since you are the smallest, that place is perfect for you.

And I waited again,  if she would move and go back to her spot. Well, she did but with a pouty mouth. So we went home in silence and I was thinking how in the world did that happen?

It is time to have a talk with everyone. From my understanding, everybody was sympathetic to her having lost her dad. Yes, she lost her dad and it was heartbreaking for a child. I understand that. But that doesn't change the fact that she has a mother, grandmother, uncle, aunts, cousin and all the relatives in her life. She needs to learn to know her place. As a child, she needs to understand that losing a father is not losing her life. Yes, a part is lost but a part is still there - her mom.

We had a talk after we got home. I invited them inside my house and sit down to chat about it. We agreed from now on, we keep her dad alive in us so she won't miss him that much. We told her about how we miss her dad too but there is always tomorrow to look forward and someday, the pain of losing someone you love will eventually be an instrument to be a better person for the love of someone you lost.

I am relieved after the talk for she came forward and gave me a hug. As she hugged me tight, she said: Grandma, you are right. I still have daddy in me. See, I look like him. Thank you for your love.