For Those Who Work A Lot

For those who work a lot and have children or plan to have children

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door. 
SON: "Daddy, may I ask you something?" 
DAD: "Yeah, sure, what is it?" 
SIN: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?" 
DAD: "That does not concern you. Why do you ask?" says angrily
SON: "I just wanted to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "If you must know, I make $ 50 an hour."
"Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down.
"Dad, please and, can you lend me $ 25? "
The father was furious: "If the only reason you askedto lend you $ 25 that you can buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then turn around and go straight to the room and think about why you are being so selfish. I do not work hard everyday for such childish frivolities "
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy questions ... "How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?"
After some hour, had calmed down, and started to think: "Maybe there was something he really needed to buy those $ 25 ... really did not ask for money very often ..."
The man went to his room and opened the door.
"Are you asleep, son?" he asked.
"No, Dad, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I was thinking ... maybe I was too hard on you earlier. I had a tough day and took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $ 25 you asked for. "
The boy sat straight up, smiling: "Oh, thank you daddy!" he yelled.
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up novčanica.Kad he saw that the boy already had money, again began ljutiti.Dječak slowly counted out his money and looked at his father.
"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the father grumbled.
"Because I did not have enough, but now I do.", replied the boy.
"Dad , I have $ 50. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I want to have dinner with you. " 
The father was crushed. He hugged his son and asked him for forgiveness. This is just a short reminder to all of you. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with people who really matter to us, those close to our heart. 
Remember to share that $ 50 with someone you love. If we die tomorrow, the company that you work for can easily replaced you. But family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for life.

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Modern risk

Modern risk

"No one is doing anything, and this is a dangerous epidemic of obesity, alcoholism and smoking '

Loneliness and social isolation destroys health worse than obesity, smoking, alcoholism, showed extensive research on the three million people. Worse still, nobody does anything.

While the last 10 years or so, there's big talk about the harmfulness of overweight and sedentary lifestyle, driven campaign which seeks to encourage exercise and even introduce taxes on fat and sugar, usaljenost even the World Health Organization is not considered a threat. 

However, a drastic increase in depression and anxiety disorders is becoming epidemic. Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad warns that we must begin to really understand their social relations. Even if not completed suicide. "Loneliness destroys health worse than alcohol, 15 cigarettes a day or obesity," warns Dr. Holt Lunstad . He added that in developed countries, more and more people live and only less communicating with people. 

But the study showed the bright side of the psyche - how loneliness destroys health, so it protects socializing. For example, people who every day hanging out with friends and family are less like to have harmful effects of stress.

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Meet Your Mate

Meet Your Mate

MEET YOUR MATE

In the dating pool, there are tons of places to meet people, but where would you go to meet your ideal mate? Now that is the million dollar question…

You must first know what you are looking for in your ideal mate. Doe he/she have to be intelligent, good looking, fun, spontaneous? You must obviously need to have an idea of the type of person you are looking for before you can even go out there and start searching.

Once you have listed all the traits you are looking for, this is when you begin narrowing the search...

Fun Loving Party Animal    

Are you looking for the fun loving mate who is the life of the party? The obvious place is a bar or club. There you will find him/her out on the dance floor getting their groove on or surrounded by people with a drink in their hand. This person is the social butterfly, the magnet that attracts people of all types to them. There is always someone waiting in the wings vying for their attention. To attract this person, you must also be fun loving and very secure with yourself. You must do something to catch their attention in some way.

The Intelligent Braniac

If your ideal mate is someone who is highly intelligent, you might focus on going to the library, attending an event where there is sure to be intelligent specimens, or joining a group that involves philosophical or intelligent discussions. Although the library will carry all types, you will need to zero in on the studious book worm studying in some desolate corner. You could also research where all the medical conferences will be held at, pass through the event, and you might just happen to run into a doctor or nurse. Or you could join a book club or an investment club where people meet to discuss books and financial strategy. Whatever field your mate may be in, you will need to target or plan out your strategy if you are truly serious about finding him/her.  The point is, you need to be proactive and be very specific about the type of person you are looking for.

The Athlete

If you are looking for the athletic type, you should attend a sporting event or hang out at a local sports bar when you know a game is going to be on. This section pertains mainly to women, but men might want to date someone who is athletic as well. If you’re looking for someone who swims, plays golf, plays volleyball, or surfs, you just have to situate yourself in the places where your ideal mate might be found. For instance, a swimmer or surfer will obviously be hanging out at the beach or maybe the local pool/YMCA. A golfer will be at the golf course putting away or at the driving range practicing their swing. A volleyball player might also be at the beach or playing in an indoor gym. I think you get the point…if you want action, go to where the action is.

The Sweet and Caring Nurturer

If you want to find a mate who is sweet, kind, and nurturing, you will usually find this type of person volunteering their time at a hospital, homeless shelter, or at any worthy organization. This is the person who is selfless and puts other’s needs before their own. You will find this is the type of mate who you can always count on to be there. They are the types of people who want to improve and better the world by offering their time. The philanthropists are the “doers” of the world. They are generous with their time and often very dependable.

The Adventurer/Traveler

The adventurer/traveler is usually the free spirit, and therefore harder to track and even harder to “tame.” These types of individuals are usually more cultured and wise to the world because they have seen and experienced so many things from their travels. The adventurer type is fearless, and they will try almost anything. He/she loves the thrill of experiencing new cultures, traveling to distant places, and finding adventure in any situation. You should sign yourself up with a singles tour group or join an adventure or travel club. You will most likely find your ideal mate in these specific places because the adventurer/traveler type will not “settle down” with a person who does not share this interest. This type of person will not marry a person who is not just as adventurous because who wants to travel alone and leave their spouse at home? You could also join an internet community specific to travelers or adventure seekers. Again, the adventurer/traveler is a very specific type so if you want to attract this type of person into your life, you will need to be very specific.

These are just some of the different character types we might be looking for in a mate. The KEY to meeting your mate is being very specific as to what type of person you are looking for. Visualize the type of person you want to spend your life with. Hold this image in your mind and then take action. Take up on the different opportunities and resources that are currently offered and available to you, such as the internet. Join a new discussion group or sign up at a local club.  Go to the places you think your ideal mate would most likely show up. Attend events and meet new people. The point is, get yourself out there. You cannot expect to meet “Mr. Right” or “Ms. Right” sitting on your ass. Those of you who do not stop will eventually be rewarded and you will meet your mate.

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The Qualities Of A Muslim Husband

I am not sure how a Muslim husband should be, but this is worth reading and applies to every husband, Muslim or not.

These Should  Be The Qualities Of A Muslim Husband

1. Make your wife feel safe, does not threaten her with divorce.

2. Give sincere salaams.

3. Treat it gently, as a weaker vessel.

4. Advise her in private with the fastest time in the best way and 'climate'.

5. Be generous with her.

6. Heat the seat for her, you will warm your heart.

7. Avoid anger, do wudhu at all times.

8. Is looking good and smelling to his wife.

9. Do not be rigid or hard-hearted to her.

10. Be a good listener.

11. Yes to cuddle. Not for discussion.

12. Call your wife with the best names, nicknames, she will like to hear.

13. Take a pleasant surprise.

14. Preserve and protect the language.

15. Wait, accept and ignore its flaws.

16. Give sincere compliments.

17. Encourage her to maintain good relations with her family.

18. Contact theme of interest.

19. Compliment her for her relatives.

20. Give gifts to each other.

21. Free to the routine, surprise her.

22. Have a good opinion of each other.

23. Have good manners, forget the little things, look no defects.

24. Be patient during pregnancy.

25. Respect it by his jealousy.

26. Be humble.

27. Sacrifice your happiness for her.

28. Help at home with the housework.

29. Help her to love their relatives, however, did not try to force it.

30. Let her know that she is the ideal woman for you.

31. Remember his wife in Du'a.

32. Leave the past Allah, no basement or bring it to light.

33. Do not act like you're doing her a favor, remember that Allah is the Provider, the husband is only the carrier of living for the family.

34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not his wife.

35. Put food in the mouth of his wife.

36. Treat your wife as the most precious pearl that you want to protect.

37. Show him your smile.

38. Do not ignore the little things, deal with them before they came to be large.

39. Respect and show that you appreciate their thinking.

40. Help her find and build its internal strengths and skills.

41. Respect when she can not be in the mood for intimacy.

Keep to the Sunnah of foreplay, do not jump on it like an animal.

42. Help her to take care of children.

43. Sit down and make meals together.

44. Tell it in advance when you travel or return trip.

45. Do not leave home angry.

46. Keep the confidentiality and privacy of home.

47. Encourage each other in the worship of Allah.

48. Living with her kindness, goodness, justice, in good times and bad.

49. Show care for their health and well-being.

50. Remember you also is not perfect, so perfect -If.

51. Share your happiness and sadness with her.

52. Have mercy on their weaknesses.

53. Be strong support for her support.

The above list is a difficult task, but:

"Nothing is difficult when done to the satisfaction of Allah, and nothing is easy when done to the satisfaction of the ego." We ask Allah, the Most High, the path to success and virtue. Amen.

***From an anonymous source

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Heart Touching True Love Story

Heart Touching True Love Story

There was a Boy and a Girl,
They were best friends for years and years,
They could Talk for hours on the Phone and text each other for days,
When They were Together;
Not a single Sad Thought could cross their Minds,
everything was Great, But One Day;

The Boy did not Answer any Call or Reply to any Text for a Day,
The Girl was worried that something was Wrong..
at night She couldn’t Sleep.., She was sitting in her Room Crying,
and It was then that She Realized how much He Means to Her..?

The next Morning;
She woke Up from a Phone call.., It was the Boy..:)

Boy : Hey..,
Girl : I am so glad that you Called Me, What happened to you yesterday ??
Boy : I was Busy
[ The GIRL Understood that;
Something was Wrong but could not Ask]

[silence]

Boy : You know..; We should Stop talking..!
Girl: What??.., But Why ??
Boy: I am Sorry, Bye..!

[He Disconnected the call, and She Felt as If Somebody
had Slammed the door on Her face]

Everything else Flashed in Her Mind,
Tears :
Cars running by Her..
Roof of some building..and Sunset..
She couldn’t understand anything..
She started Feeling Lonely, rejected, and broken..:’(

That was the answer to everything! His words were pouncing on her..
Her heart wanted to jump out!

He was the One..! “Why..??”
She Screamed at the Top of her Voice;
Then She made up Her Mind to make a last Try to get Him Back..!

[She called Him Up]
Girl: hi…
Boy: Why are you calling Me?
Girl: I need to tell you Something..
Boy: Go Ahead.
Girl: I Just Wanted You to know one thing before we stopped talking!
Boy: Tell me..!

Girl: Are you All right?
[She broke off..!
She tried but may be he doesn't really Care about Her,
She Thought!
She wasn't His friend in the first Place...
Tears were slowly running Worst :'(
She left the House with a Note..!

[5 hours later]

Phone Rang in the Boy’s Room,
It was the Girl’s Mum,
The girl was lying in the hospital, Got hit by a Car, :’(
The Boy rushed to the Hospital where She was.

She Opened Her Eyes with the Boy’s name..,
He took her Hand..

Boy: I am so Sorry Its all my fault..! But;
I promise when U get better I’ll make It up to You..:(

Girl: I wont get Better..
Boy: No..! No Don’t say that..:(
Girl: just tell me one thing Why did you do it?

Boy told her that He had a Heart problem ‘n
he did not want her to be worried;
‘n there was a risk that he could have Died..!

Boy: I did that because I…..I…..I Love you..?
Girl : I LOVE YOU TOO..? and After That her heart Stopped Beating… She Died..! 
The Boy died 10 min's later from a Heart Attack.. 

He could not live with the thought that She died Because of Him.. 

Moral:

If You Love Someone…;
Then Don’t Hold Back Your Feelings…
because Love is The Reason to Live..!
Love is Beautiful..? !

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How To Save A Marriage After Infidelity

How To Save A Marriage After Infidelity

The pain of an affair can crush any marriage. Find out what you need to do if you wish to save the relationship.



There is perhaps no bigger sting than the shock of infidelity. Knowing your spouse was unfaithful severs the bond of trust that is so vital to the strength of a marriage. It is perhaps the worst thing that can happen to threaten a marriage and it is often fatal to the relationship. Some people simply cannot move past the betrayal and they find the marriage to be beyond repair.



Many people wrestle with the decision to save their marriage. Some affairs are long and drawn out with strong emotional ties. Others are simply one-night flings that have little or no meaning. Deciding whether to save your marriage will depend on how you feel about your spouse and if your spouse is willing to stay. If you decide to try to stay together remember that it will be a long and exhausting venture, but it can be done.

Why Us?



Most affairs begin to fill an emotional void. Married couples can sometimes drift apart in some areas of their lives and this leaves the door open for someone else to step into the middle of the marriage. Often the cheater is seeking to fill some emotional need that is not being met at home. Cheaters start out just looking for someone to understand them. In the end, it's the way the other person makes them feel that keeps them emotionally invested in the affair. This can happen in even the best marriages. People often get so involved with their personal pursuits, their jobs, and in raising the children they forget that their spouse still needs them.



First Steps



The very first thing the faithful spouse must do is face the fact that the affair happened. Ignoring it and moving on will not work. This only builds resentment and delays the inevitable. If your spouse has cheated you have to keep in mind that your spouse it suffering too. People who end long emotional affairs often fall into deep depression. Even if you can feel no sympathy for your cheating spouse's pain, it is important to realize that it is very real.



It's Over



If the cheating spouse has decided they would like to remain in the marriage they must completely cut off all ties with the other person. This is sometimes hard but it essential if the marriage is to be saved. If the other person is a friend, coworker, or even worse, a family member this part can be disruptive to your life. In extreme cases you may have to move or the cheater must find a new job. If the cheater is still exposed to the other person it is likely that the affair may resume at some point in the future. This is also extremely important to the faithful spouse. If the cheater agrees to end the affair and never go near the other person again, this will help to rebuild the trust. It also lets the faithful spouse know that the cheater is serious about fixing the marriage and moving ahead.



Withdrawal



After all contact between the cheater and the other person has been severed, the cheater will go into withdrawal. This is much like an alcoholic that has gone sober. They need time to mourn a part of their life that is over and may have meant a lot to them. The affair filled a need for them and this is now gone. This will be hard for the faithful spouse to accept but it is important for this stage to happen uninterrupted. This phase may take anywhere from a few weeks to many months. The time involved depends on the depth of the emotional loss for the cheater. The cheater may feel frustrated, angry, and sad during this time.



It is important for the faithful spouse to allow this stage to happen in its own time. Many times a spouse will try to fill the void that the other person has left in their partner's life. This leaves the cheater confused and frustrated all over again. Only after the withdrawal period is over can the healing really begin in earnest.



Repair and Move On



Once the withdrawal period is over the real healing can start. The faithful spouse may find that the cheater does not feel as much remorse as they think they should. This is hard on the faithful spouse and should be directly addressed. This is when the deep conversations should take place. The cheater should apologize and answer every question the faithful spouse asks them. They must show understanding and a willingness to be completely open and honest about everything. The faithful spouse should give himself or herself all the time they need to ponder the situation and decide how they wish to proceed. They should ask every question they have until they are satisfied that they have all the information they need.



Making It Work



As long as both spouses remain committed to reconciliation, any thing is possible. Spouses should show each other compassion and understanding, be patient with each other, and learn what is needed to avoid another affair. Seek counseling together and separately if needed. This may be a crucial and healing exercise for both parties involved. Sometimes couples must learn how to love each other and relate to each other all over again. With love and hard work the marriage can survive and last a lifetime.

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从颜色到设计

从颜色到设计：我们的家会影响健康，性别和心理
红色和橙色的墙壁增加焦虑，太多电视的客厅引起偏头痛，拥挤的空间，减少了内存和厚厚的窗帘不停地长细


在我们的生活和我们的生活空间，对我们的影响更大比我们想象的，专家们说，谁指出，第一步，以更好的健康的调光器
在家里。现代集约型灯混淆我们的自然睡眠和清醒，这会破坏和其他身体机能的周期，写每日邮报。

因此，过多的光被与荷尔蒙问题，糖尿病，肥胖，甚至癌症的风险增加相关。

- 很明显，一个强大的LED照明等现代变种会影响我们的生理机能。到了晚上，重要的是用柔和的多红灯的干扰较少的生物钟 - 研究人员说，乳腺癌，理查德·史蒂文斯博士。
你感到压力？要怪就怪它的墙壁上

如果你的墙壁是强烈的橙色或红色色调，它可能是时间来考虑改变。根据大量的研究和颜色增加了主观压力和焦虑感，甚至可引起瘙痒。

此外，这样一个充满活力的彩色墙壁刺激我们更快地吃，这是不利于消化而行，这是最好的厨房要选择中性色调的米色一样。至于卧室，蓝色是最好的选择 - 不仅增强并扩展了梦想，也增强性欲，而且在蓝色的房间的人经常有性行为。
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看电视？打开灯

为了获得最佳的体验，当看电视生产商反映的建议距离座位屏幕的对角线宽度的1.5倍的长度。但医生坚持的距离应该更大，因为看电视的近距离，并可能导致眼睛疲劳，引发偏头痛。最好是坐在离屏幕两三米，无论其规模。此外，最好是表与灯电视，因为那样的话眼睛更少束紧。
开放的空间是更好地记住

心理学教授加布里埃尔Radvansky圣母大学强调，即使是简单的行动，比如通过一扇门可与记忆干扰。这并不总是一件坏事，因为它允许更多地着眼于当前位置，但在现代的家庭，有很多房间是忘记后，我们只要我们改变的余地。

因此，家里有开放式的，例如，连接室，餐厅和厨房，刺激记忆，和另外的解决办法是剥夺家局促的室内 - 例如，很多货架，家具和装饰件。
较厚的窗帘是更好的线

如果你有一个半透明的窗帘和窗户附近的路灯，你肥胖的风险正在增加，根据美国癌症研究所的一项调查。照明破坏性REM睡眠，这是不太好的假期。睡眠剥夺反过来又增加食欲的高热量食物的摄入和。
衣服干燥外



当家庭内晾晒衣服，增加湿度在家里。这反过来有利于霉菌，尘螨等过敏原的发展。霉菌孢子可引起呼吸道感染，哮喘和咳嗽。如果你没有其他选择干燥，一定要在一个房间的窗口打开这样做。






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