Thursday, August 20, 2015

Birthmarks


This Beautiful Teen Isn't Ashamed of Her Unique Birthmarks

Provided by Good Housekeeping

© Provided by Good HousekeepingHaving a birthmark is no big deal to most people, especially if they aren't particularly noticeable, but for one North Carolina teen, her birthmarks (hundreds of them, in fact!) are one of her most defining features. And while she's faced a lot of grief over her unique appearance, she wants the world to know she's not ashamed.Meet 19-year-old Ciera Swaringen, who was born with Giant Congenital Melanocytic Nevus​, a dermatological condition that leads large moles to appear on more than two-thirds of her body. The birthmarks cover her legs, torso, and face, giving her skin a very unique appearance that she has, sadly, been bullied for throughout childhood.© Provided by Good Housekeeping"One day I remember being on the school bus and hearing a young boy laugh at me and call me a spotty dog," the teen told The Daily Mail. "That really knocked my confidence. It made me feel different to the other kids, like something was wrong with me."The bullying continued into her high school years. "Teenage boys are usually the first ones to comment when they see me," Swaringen added. "They say things like, 'You look like you're dirty.'"© Provided by Good HousekeepingBut the recent high school graduate doesn't let the cruel comments get her down and is "so proud to be different." According to Swaringen, her small town of Richfield (population: 600!) also has been a supportive place to grow up — most people already know about her birthmarks, she said, so she feels perfectly normal there.And you're probably wondering: Can she have the birthmarks removed? She can't because they are continuously growing — in fact, more and more will appear over the years. But other than needing to be extra careful about sun protection — something we should ​all​ do, of course — Swaringen doesn't let her skin condition stop her from acting like any other teen, wearing fancy dresses and cute swimsuits.© Provided by Good HousekeepingAnd her self assurance is something we could all take cues from: "At the end of the day, we all have something about us that's unusual, whether it's on the inside or the outside. Everyone is born to look different, and we're should all feel beautiful in our own skin.​"

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Friday, August 14, 2015

Reasons to Find Time to Play With Your Kids

6 Reasons to Find Time to Play With Your Kids
6 Reasons to Find Time to Play With Your Kids

1. To make memories

There is no excuse a mother can give to be unable to find the time to play with her kids. You will unknowingly form wonderful memories with your kids when you are helping them ride the see-saw, playing Lego with them or swinging them in the hammock. If you don’t play with your kids when they are young, you will miss out on some of the best parts of their childhood which you will regret later. This is the foremost reason why you should make time to play with your kids.

2. To know about their skills, aptitude and interests

There is an ulterior reason of spending more time playing with your kids. When you see your kids playing in front of your eyes, you can make a lot of observations about them. You will able to make mental notes about which games they like the most, how intensely they like their recreational hours and whether they like being indoors or outdoors. Many of the likes and dislikes that kids display when they play games or a sport get reflected and carried forward in their adult lives too.

3. To form a deeper bond with them

It is important spend time helping your kids with their homework and reading them bedtime stories, but it is equally important to spend time playing with them. This is because kids love playing and they will feel happy about the fact that you are spending your time having fun with them too. Don’t let your kids feel that parents are only meant to be strict and firm. Show them your fun side so that you both can form a deeper bond with each other.

4. To spot any inconsistencies in their behavior

Many child psychology experts believe that it is important for parents to spend time playing with their kids because it can give them a closer look at their kids’ behavior. A child is likely to display his or her natural behavior while playing which makes it the perfect time to spot any inconsistencies. For example, many parents are known to have spotted the first signs of impaired speech, autism and dyslexia in their kids when they were playing or indulging in other recreational activities.

5. To satisfy your kids

How many times has your child tugged your armed and coaxed you to come and play? How many times have your kids started crying because you refused to play with them? This is a clear indication that your kids yearn for your company but they don’t say it out loud. Your children will experience immense joy if you spend an entire evening in the weekend or an hour everyday to play with them.

6. To find a fun way of teaching your kids

It is not necessary to teach your kids values and morals of life only by making them sit next to you and giving them a boring lecture. You can do so while playing with them so that they don’t look it as burdensome. This way, you will be able to drive home many things subtly as compared to drilling it in them forcefully.



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Thursday, August 13, 2015

Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Top Five Regrets of the Dying

I saw this article about a a powerful book by a wonderful woman named Bronnie Ware which focuses in on the actual voiced regrets of people she encountered when they were dying. Powerful stuff – go and pick up the book! Here’s a small excerpt: For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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Monday, July 27, 2015

When God Created Mothers

“When God Created Mothers"
 When God Created Mothers

When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of "overtime" when the angel appeared and said. "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one." 

And God said, "Have you read the specs on this order?" She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts...all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands." 

When God Created Mothers

The angel shook her head slowly and said. "Six pairs of hands.... no way." 

It's not the hands that are causing me problems," God remarked, "it's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have." 

That's on the standard model?" asked the angel. God nodded. 

One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. 'I understand and I love you' without so much as uttering a word." 


God," said the angel touching his sleeve gently, "Get some rest tomorrow...." 

I can't," said God, "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick...can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger...and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower." 
When God Created Mothers
The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed. 

But tough!" said God excitedly. "You can imagine what this mother can do or endure." 

Can it think?" 

Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise," said the Creator. 

Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. 

There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model." 

It's not a leak," said the Lord, "It's a tear." 

What's it for?" 

It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride." 

You are a genius, " said the angel. 

Somberly, God said, "I didn't put it there.” 
― Erma BombeckWhen God Created Mothers


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Monday, July 13, 2015

Lost Are Those Who Are Forgotten

Lost are those who are forgotten

 Love Life
Life cannot be better, we say when everything around us goes the way we want it to be. It feels like we have been riding a big airplane-sized car on the straight and plain highway of life. There is no traffic, no stop sign, nothing to distract us. We and our life. We get whatever we want. Life feels picture-perfect. 

Love Life
This is where we do the prime mistake of our lives. The slip where we are going to slide so hard that  we are going to burst. We do not even realize what we are doing. We climb all the way to the mountains and do not know our way down. This is where life likes to play with us. To play with our emotions and beloved ones. Just to make us stronger. Life just wants us to realize the authenticity and not to forget the sure-happenings of life. Life puts a bump on the super straight highway. A slow-down. Life takes away our beloved ones from us. 
Love Life
Ones without whom our life is meaningless. Ones who ho are actually the wheels of our car which keeps our vehicle running. What should we do in that situation? Give up? I don’t think so. Life itself is so dumb. It just knows few tricks to get us but we are a lot smarter than that. Do not let life play on us but play with life. Tell life how strong we are and we have not forgotten anything. We know our way down and we know that life is not perfect. Tell life that we know we all are in this world to leave. We know that this straight simple way is going to be stony at some place and we will get through it. Sometimes we think that why life chose us to be the victim. Remember we are not the victims, we are blessed ones. 
Love Life
Life did it to us because we are a lot stronger than other people and we will become inspiration of people. We will become a source of message for other million people and show them that we are living in the real world and we thank God for everything. We obviously miss the lost ones but now we are going to live our own lives because people need us. Because this world needs some good people to be here still to spread the intelligence. Our families need us to support them and we will make proud those who are taken away from us. We did not actually lose them. 
Love Life
Lost are those who are forgotten. They will be there with us, in our memories forever. We will meet them in heaven someday and will spend the never-ending life with them. Everybody loves us. I used “We” all over this little message because it’s not just you. You are not alone. It’s you and me together. It’s we now and forever.

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